I wasn't very active here anymore after several blogs I left my job (that time! Which you can surf the net during work hours). I did not realize I have few readers. And to those who send their emails, Ive been reading them and there's a mail I feel like I have to answer.
Hello! I don't know what pushed you to choose me to send a mail, to ask for advice but I appreciate it. I really do. And here's what I can say...
I always say to my friends this and it really sounds cliche but yeah, its very easy to say or advise someone what you think is best for them. But why they are'nt listening? Because they only know what they feel. You dont. Every situation is unique. Hindi mo pwedeng sabihin na you've been on that situation many times dahil hindi lahat ng sitwasyon pareho. Hindi rin pare-pareho ng taong involve sa isang sitwasyon. (Ito ay signposting ko lang, hindi pa to ang advice ko, lol)
Anyway, what I am thinking is, you are clinging on something you really never had. The guy you are inlove with is with someone else. Why? Because maybe he is lying to you, using you, playing with you or maybe love you but not enough. Or afraid to face the unknown with you. You see, the guy leave the country and follow the real girlfriend because he has dreams bigger than you. If he really loves you, he will break whatever he has with the girl he is with now. But he didn't. They've been in a relationship for almost 9 years. Relationships like that is very hard to shake. Sometimes one of them is "naliligaw" along the way, but they always go and find their path. People likes to know they have options. You must know that. So you shouldn't believe when he said that he will just pay the girl sa mga nagastos to take him there, kailangan magbayad ng utang na loob for helping him. There's no such thing. Pano kung hindi sya makabayad? Pano kung tamarin na sya magbayad? Investment na sya dun sa girl (time, money and all). Pano kung hindi sya i-let go?
You should know your worth as a woman. You deserve someone who will give you their full attention and someone who will stand for you. Don't waste time for that guy. When we love, all we see is rose-colored glasses. Pero we better open our eyes on what reality is. I know you will come around. Its not much of an advise. Its hard to state the obvious. You're smart. You'll figure a way out.