Everyone brings happiness, some by coming, some by going...
This is the continuation of, Si Jelly at Koko.
Me: Everything happens for a reason.
Jelly: The tough part is finding the reason, isn't it?
Me: I know you have awesome plans about your future and memorable past, but you got to live your today to the fullest.
Jelly: You don't understand, you don't know how it feels like to lose everything...
......... and the crying continues....
Since umalis ako papuntang Visayas region ngayon because of my work demand, I decided to write an email to Jelly at sa iba pang broken hearted, para sa ATIN 'to!
Being a heartbroken is a pain that no one can understand until they have experienced it for themselves. Jelly, friend, you obviously have, therefore you are aware of how fragile your heart is right now. Healing a broken heart will take time, but it is not impossible, though it may feel that way at the time. It is never an easy process to go through, but with right prescription, you will be on your way to recovery and happiness again.
The first thing you should keep in mind is that it is okay to feel sad and grieve about what happened and that you are not stupid for doing so. It is perfectly normal to feel sad and cry after a break up. You have invested most of your time and all of your love and interest on your ex-partner; therefore will go through a sad and painful withdrawal. It is notable that you not grieve all on your own. Sure, there will be times when you will just want to be alone and undisturbed. However, it is important that you talk to your friends and family about it. Talking about it is not only healthy, but will mend your heart quicker because you will release the thoughts and facts that are hurting you so much. Seeking professional advice will be a great help to you as well because your mind will open up and see new perspectives and understandings on what happened. It will help you gather your strength, pick yourself up, and find the happiness you deserve to have.
Accepting the fact that you and your ex-partner are no longer together is a necessity if you are going to start mending your broken heart. If you catch yourself unable to function due to constantly thinking about your ex or repeatedly calling or visiting him for another chance, then chances are you are suffering from love addiction and should seek counseling. Discontinuing a serious relationship is emotionally challenging and can drive you to do things that are unhealthy for your self-being. To avoid entering such hazardous areas, keep yourself occupied. Go out with friends and family to help get your mind off the break up. It is the best to spend as less time alone as you can in the first few weeks of your breakup so that your emotions can slowly and patiently from back into their normal pattern.
Fight the thoughts that tell you that you are a failure and are to blame for the end of your relationship. When a relationship ends it means that the two of you are no longer compatible and that always takes two, not just you. Instead of beating yourself up over what has transpired, examine your ex-relationship by listing the things you enjoyed most about it and then the things that disappointed you and what you believe really caused the breakup. Look at the relationship as a learning experience and an opportunity to improve your relationship skills, and a way to realize what you truly need and want from a relationship.
Hope this helps girl!
No one is ever going to always be there no matter what they promise you. You just gotta suck it up and accept it. Sometimes, a love lost is a love gone forever. I believe that it's not right to let go of what you've had for so long, but it's not right, either, to hold onto what's not there anymore. Letting go is difficult but it's better than holding on when there's nothing left to hold on to. Sometimes people hold onto something too tight cos they're afraid nothing that great will happen to them again. But, remember that most of the time, saving a relationship alone destroys your very own self.
I know its hard to let GO and move on. But someday you will see, eventually things will fall into place when you stop waiting, and start living.